)The way you go about buying and giving gifts matters, and more importantly, WHAT you give and HOW you give the gift sets up the right dynamic between you and a man, or it doesn’t.(Read my article on creating an outstanding surprise)What you give and how you give it can make you seem low value or high value in a man’s mind.It’s incredible how much of our behavior is determined by how we are raised. It just means that the grand romantic gesture is not a part of their vocabulary.I grew up in a family where my Mom made big deal about every holiday. They don’t want people making a big fuss about their birthdays and they don’t want to make a big fuss about yours.
(Click here to take the quiz on “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?Pick a restaurant that has a long wait list but you were slick enough to swing by early on and ask the owner for a little help.That says, “It may be early, but I want to see this last longer.” As for the present, keep it simple – maybe a book they have talked about reading or a bottle of wine they have been dying to try.Today, I present Part 1 of my two-part series on the proper gift for the new or unofficial relationship. ” Then it hits you: you have to get them a present! When things are going well, you don’t want anything to rock the boat.Part 1 is for the gentlemen and next week, I’ll offer some ideas for the ladies. You need a gift that says “I like you” but not “I want to meet your parents tomorrow.” Rule number 1: Don’t roll out the red carpet. Well, you did just start dating and you want to save a little magic for later, if/when things get more serious.It wasn’t enough to say “I love you.” It wasn’t enough to give a card. You had to do ALL of them for EVERY holiday – birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day, you name it. It would be nice to say that he “should” go the extra mile “if he really loved you,” but as we all know, it’s not that simple to rewire your personality.