Julie, 50, from Denver, thought she'd be able to handle her divorce."I'm a strong person, I own my own business and I'm a professional speaker," she says.When I went through my divorce, I was emotionally raw, worn down by all the decisions to be made, and frustrated by the lack of good information. Having learned my lessons the hard way, I made a promise to myself that no woman would ever have to face this journey alone.As a result, I started the Womans Divorce website in 2001 to help other women going through a divorce in the United States, and have done so ever since. Every day I see the sad outcome of what happens when women go through a divorce unprepared.You had too much going on during your divorce to possibly consider dating. This same script, I’m reminded, played out in the life of one of my favorite clients who fell in love with a separated man.Therefore, you seem to think all men should feel the same way. But you are correct in proceeding with a sense of caution. Not because he listed himself as divorced but is really separated. He gave a lot to her during their time together, but, when it got right down to it, he really needed to sow his oats for awhile.Unfair property settlements, outrageous attorney fees, and months (or even years) spent battling it out in court.
Here, real women share what they wish they'd known when they split from their husbands and divorce professionals weigh in on how to combat the most unexpected, yet most common, mistakes they've seen clients make.
Rest assured, these 10 lessons can get you through the end of your marriage, both financially and emotionally.1.
It may take a long time to recover—and that's okay.
When you're facing a divorce, it's easy to feel overwhelmed by everything.
You know you need reliable information before you make any major decisions. For most women, advice from friends just isn't enough.